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Heparin training booked

now, just need to get pregnant!

the latest appointment at the RPL clinic was a mixture of annoying, anger inducing and at least a positive move in a direction resembling forward

the doctor started off by not making eye contact and saying “right, are you pregnant?”

I said, “no I’m not”.  What I felt like saying was, “I’m seeing my 4th doctor at the Recurrent Pregnancy Loss clinic for discussions on heparin…what the eff do you think?”

so apparently I don’t fit the “typical” case study and meet the strict criteria (a fact she must have mentioned at least 10 times and I am NOT exaggerating even though you know I am prone to do so) they are going to treat me with Heparin anyway.  She sees “lots of women like me” (poor souls) and as heparin doesn’t hurt the baby she sees no reason not to treat me with it and if anyone tells me that it does hurt the baby she “will refute that unequivocally”.  You have been warned!  So, even though she asked if I was pregnant, took a phone call during our appointment, had no clue about any of my history and made me go through the whole thing again and FLIRTED with my husband she did say that she would treat me “even though I don’t meet the strict clinical criteria” so…there is that.  Small things to be grateful for.

I’m not myself anymore

and I don’t know where I went

I am still waiting to hear of my blood test results regarding lupus anti-coagulant.  If it is a positive for the second time the Dr. at the RPL clinic has said I should go on heparin if I do manage to get pregnant. However, don’t try to get pregnant yet until we get the results of the blood test.  There goes another cycle.  I’m not monitoring for ovulation this cycle because:

a) I just don’t have it in me

b) I just don’t have it in me

c) I can’t get the energy to test

Realistically, if my lupus anti-coagulant test is negative I’m not sure what to do.  The doctor said to just try again and hope nothing goes wrong.  If it does go wrong, they test the fetus and it’s normal, then they’d put me on heparin.  I hope I don’t have to go through all that however, heparin doesn’t feel like the answer and I’m pretty sure the blood test is going to come back negative and then what…….? IUI again and hope it works?  Do I feel like getting pregnant a fifth time with no clear answers and putting my heart through all that again?

Where did I go?  Where have I gone?  My energy for this is going away.  I haven’t gone to acupuncture, I still drink a cup of coffee, I haven’t changed my diet, I’m not monitoring my temperature, I’ve avoided blogging and reading about infertility for the last 3 weeks.  I’m crawling into my shell and not sure how to come out.  We were watching Amazing Race and they went to Legoland in Denmark and J said, “I wouldn’t want to go there, but I’d take the kids” my heart literally flipped and cracked in my chest and all my tightly held pain came oozing out my fingernails.

What did I do? Made a cup of tea.